For whatever reason Christopher decides he wants to wear his jeans to spring camp backwards today. So of course I let him, because that’s just the type of person I am. But my husband doesn’t seem to agree. He can’t understand why I would go along with it. “The other kids will make fun of him and how will he unzip his pants to go pee?” he would try to convince me.
But here’s what I think. As parents aren’t we supposed to support our children, even when we don’t always agree with their decisions? Shouldn’t we stand by them unconditionally? I know that’s what I would have wanted from my parents. But, one may argue that our job is also to protect them from society’s judgement eyes, from humiliation, from all that unwanted attention and emotions. That is in fact true. But while it is tempting to shield our children from the world, we should keep an open mind as well. We should give them the opportunity to be independent, to make their own choices, and allow room for mistakes. Isn’t that how we learned?
I’m sure if my husband has the chance to defend himself he could easily come up with his own list of logics. However this is just another case of human evolution where men and women’s brains are simply designed differently: A recent study showed that men have more grey matter while women have more white matter.
I also trust that my son is fully aware of his choice, even though he may appear to be only three years old. Therefore, I choose to encourage my child’s rapidly growing brain to question the world with confidence, and most importantly with his mother’s unconditionally loving support.
What is your take on this? What would you have done?